I have recently adopted a boxer/ sheperd mix from the pound. She is around seven or eight months and extremely skinny. We have her home and she seems to have bonded with us, gets along with our other animals, but is very skiddish, and she wont eat. Does anyone have any advice on helping her adjust?I have recently adopted a dog from the pound, any advice on helping her adjust to a new life at home?
Treat her good, look out for her, create a bond, and such.. :)
Bring her to the vet to make sure she doesn't have any sickness' and such, just like a checkup :)
I'm very proud of you! You adopted not from a pet store, but from a pound! That's so wonderful :)
Your dog will get used to your/her new home, just give her time.
Take care of her, and give her lots and lots of love!!I have recently adopted a dog from the pound, any advice on helping her adjust to a new life at home?
He is still young and that is good. Pound puppies take a little longer to adjust. They have to get to know you.
Both of my dogs came from the pound. They can a few months to really settle in. Just be patient. Be kind to them.
One good way to bond with your dog is to start obedience training. It is good for them to learn that you are the boss and it also teaches them good dog behavior. When you teach them sit and stay, then lay, leave it. Work with new tricks every week or two and praise them. It is good for bonding and it is just wise to train your dog anyway.
Like someone else said, take her to the vet. Make sure she doesn't have worms or anything obstructing his bowl. He could be skinny from not eating well, or there could be a medical problem. Get advice on a nutritious diet to help him gain weight. The vet can help determine a healthy weight goal.
Another good way is to eliminate all table food/snacks/treats and only feed her at meal time. But set a time limit then take up the food after about 15-20 min. She will learn that she needs to eat when she has food down for her. Dogs learn that one fairly quickly when you control the food.
First of all, lots of love and attention! very important. Second, put the new dogs food and water in a seperate place than the other dogs/cats. They need to feel that they have their ';own'; space. Try getting some soft and hard food and mix it up. Maybe it just doesnt like the food you are feeding it. In time, your new dog will adjust to its new surroundings, but to a dog and being in a new place, it needs to feel comfortable. Having its own place to eat and knowing that ';someone'; else wont be invading its food will help. Good luck!
she will eat when she's hungry. dogs won't starve themselves, unless sick. don't coddle her when she acts skittish. ignore that behavior. but make a big deal about her coming up to you; act happy with high voice. if she is extremely skinny, be careful about over feeding her. a lot of people want to fill up the food bowl to force weight on thin dogs. this can lead to food bloat, which can be potentially deadly. small, frequent meals are best.
definitely consult vet if non-eating continues.
good luck!
Make sure she sees a vet to rule out anything physical. Otherwise just give her time.
Sounds like she probably came from an abusive home and if she spent any length of time in the pound that's no walk in the park either. Also with her being so young she has probably already had a lot of negativity in her short little life. However there are great ways to counteract all of this. Give her some space away from the other animals to have one on one bonding time with you and other family members but individually so as not to overwhelm her. Also if she is not eating do get her checked out by a vet but she may just need time to warm up. In my experience sometimes dogs just won't eat in a new environment for a while but when they get hungry they come around. However with her being so skinny at a young age her system maybe off. What you might try is going to Wal-Mart and getting some supplemental puppy formula and let her have a little in a dish and then put it on her food it will ensure she gets added nutrients she needs but she needs to eat her food too. Also you might try a softer kibble at first rather than some of the harder food brands. But not for too long as it can be bad for their teeth. Make sure she feels loved and a part of the family and consider a kong toy as its a great way to keep them entertained when you are not around. Walks, play, and lazing around watching tv or reading a book in the evenings are a great way to bond too! Good Luck with your new baby!
Yes - great job on adopting from the animal shelter! I am a huge advocate of rescued animals and very outspoken against irresponsible breeders, puppy mills and pet stores. Pound puppies make great pets!
I agree with taking her to the vet for an initial examination and first round shots and a spay if she needs them. The vet will also be able to make sure there is no physical reason she is not eating.
Most likely, her lack of appetite is caused by nervousness. She is in a brand new situation, and she is probably wondering (in her little doggy brain) if this is going to be a temporary stay or a permanent home.
To give her a sense of security, if you haven't already gotten her a crate, I would purchase one. It should be just big enough for her to stand up fully, turn around and lay down on her side. Set the crate up in a quiet area of your home, away from the front door and the television and place two or three washable blankets in the bottom of it. Show her that this is her personal space by throwing a few treats in the back and praising her when she goes in. She will see this as her den, and should retreat there when things get too overwhelming. Do not let your other pets or children bother her while she is in the crate, and never physically remove her, even if it is time to eat or go potty.
We had the same issue when my sister first adopted our dog, Chica. She spent nearly 23 hours out of the day in her crate because she was so nervous, and she jumped at the tiniest noises. She would only come out of the crate to go potty. It took a few months, but now she runs around our house not scared of anything and she eats every meal like she has never tasted food before.
Remember to be very patient and give lots of quiet treats and praise when she behaves the way you want her to. Good luck!
Im guessing based on the skittish factor she might have been abused by previous owners. Let her know shes very special. Cuddle her give her treats feed her the best food for her give her a special Comfy bed. You should even spoil her a bit she deserves it! Play with her daily but also give her space if she needs it. Never poke her nose or do anything unless she misbehaves. Try petting her and telling her shes a good dog. DON'T YELL AT HER.
Friday, January 8, 2010
Life in Houston Texas. Need advice on Safe areas to live and names of well respected and known apartments?
I need advice on where to live in Houston. Some tips-moving from NY. What are the safest places? What areas should we avoid due to danger and crime? What are the names of well respected apartment complexes that we can rent at? What is so great about sugar land?
Thanks for all your help in advance!!Life in Houston Texas. Need advice on Safe areas to live and names of well respected and known apartments?
Hello from Houston. First, avoid Alief and the Southwest ( the police stay busy night and day; gang activity) ). Two inner loop residentail locations with great schools are Bellaire and West University. There are many very nice and safe apartments and town homes in this area. Also, these two neighborhoods have their own police and fire depts... they are little cities within a city and close to down town. . Professional people live here. Sugarland is nice, it is about 20 minutes from Houston... depending on traffic. That area is developed around a lake and has beautiful homes. Many of our professional athletes live there ( Rockets and Astros) and other professional people. It is very nice . but the traffic is conjested . Be warned... this area is one of the fastest growing in the USA, so there is much development and construction. Outside of the loop are the Woodlands, ( very pretty ), Klein, and Cypress Fairbanks. These are northwest of the city and have great schools, but they are a distance from downtown. Avoid the West TC Jester area and the Tidwell , W. Fairbanks areas... low income and pockets of trouble. I encourage you to use this info to go on line and see where they are located in the city. Another nice area is around Rice University... close to the museum district, the medical center, and down town. Many older homes and nice but older apartments. Also, get in touch with an apartment locater here ( go online ) . They will guide you to a nice area . Once you are here, drive around on a Sunday and get the feel for our freeway system. Over 100 languages are spoken in this very diverse city of about 5 million and with that comes diverse driving habits, too. They all run red lights, and watch out for the Bubbas in their pick ups ( I'm something of a bubba-ette myself) . Last... I really encourage you to live close to where you will be lworking. You'll be glad you are !!! Welcome.... I hope you can get past all of our Texas-isms and southern ways and learn to like it here !!Life in Houston Texas. Need advice on Safe areas to live and names of well respected and known apartments?
1st Houston is a large land area.
some nine major city can fit in it.
a drive across town can be up to sixty miles.
suggest you check out the Houston city website.
figure out where you are going to work.
find some places near (with in 30 minutes drive
at rush hour) to live. Do not Buy until you have been on the job a year or you have a few months layoff cash stashed. Do not over buy/rent utilities and taxes are high.
I have lived in the Houston area for nearly 30 years and I don't know what the hype is about Sugarland either. Some parts of Sugarland are really nice. I think most people who rave about that area like that it is really clean, has a fresh country like feel to it with all the amenities of a large city.
Personally, I prefer the Clearlake area, a suburb of Houston. It's on the water and the community is just nicer than average. Here is one of many links to check out that area: http://www.clearlakeapartment.com/
or try:
http://www.apartment-locator-houston.com鈥?/a>
Houston has crime like any big city, our murder rates are down but we still have a fairly high rate. The Northside of Houston is probably the absolute worst, avoid it at all cost!!!!!!! Key places to avoid are: Greenspoint; Northside; Chimney Rock; Denver Habour; any of the Wards; and Channelview.
Good luck and you will enjoy our Southern hospitality!
First,Sugarland is a well respected area of Houston because it is mostly populated with affluent people. Katy is another GREAT place to live. I grew up there and had friends from Sugarland. The Woodlands is another good place as well as the Heights, historic downtown area near the Museums and the University of Houston. On Westheimer and Bell-Air area are also nice.
Anything on I-10 from katy to downtown is decent as well as fast.
Stay away from any area with the word ';ward'; attached to a number such as fifth ward. S. SW Houston is less desirable than West and NWest Houston. The ';west side'; is the ';best side';!
Maybe you should contact a real-estate agent or broker. My dad is one. He name is Lamprose ';Greek'; Vrinios. He also goes by Louis. He will point you in the right direction. www.heightsvillage.com He has been in Real-Estate since the 70's and has lived in Houston just as long and is very familiar with all the areas!
Good Luck!
Thanks for all your help in advance!!Life in Houston Texas. Need advice on Safe areas to live and names of well respected and known apartments?
Hello from Houston. First, avoid Alief and the Southwest ( the police stay busy night and day; gang activity) ). Two inner loop residentail locations with great schools are Bellaire and West University. There are many very nice and safe apartments and town homes in this area. Also, these two neighborhoods have their own police and fire depts... they are little cities within a city and close to down town. . Professional people live here. Sugarland is nice, it is about 20 minutes from Houston... depending on traffic. That area is developed around a lake and has beautiful homes. Many of our professional athletes live there ( Rockets and Astros) and other professional people. It is very nice . but the traffic is conjested . Be warned... this area is one of the fastest growing in the USA, so there is much development and construction. Outside of the loop are the Woodlands, ( very pretty ), Klein, and Cypress Fairbanks. These are northwest of the city and have great schools, but they are a distance from downtown. Avoid the West TC Jester area and the Tidwell , W. Fairbanks areas... low income and pockets of trouble. I encourage you to use this info to go on line and see where they are located in the city. Another nice area is around Rice University... close to the museum district, the medical center, and down town. Many older homes and nice but older apartments. Also, get in touch with an apartment locater here ( go online ) . They will guide you to a nice area . Once you are here, drive around on a Sunday and get the feel for our freeway system. Over 100 languages are spoken in this very diverse city of about 5 million and with that comes diverse driving habits, too. They all run red lights, and watch out for the Bubbas in their pick ups ( I'm something of a bubba-ette myself) . Last... I really encourage you to live close to where you will be lworking. You'll be glad you are !!! Welcome.... I hope you can get past all of our Texas-isms and southern ways and learn to like it here !!Life in Houston Texas. Need advice on Safe areas to live and names of well respected and known apartments?
1st Houston is a large land area.
some nine major city can fit in it.
a drive across town can be up to sixty miles.
suggest you check out the Houston city website.
figure out where you are going to work.
find some places near (with in 30 minutes drive
at rush hour) to live. Do not Buy until you have been on the job a year or you have a few months layoff cash stashed. Do not over buy/rent utilities and taxes are high.
I have lived in the Houston area for nearly 30 years and I don't know what the hype is about Sugarland either. Some parts of Sugarland are really nice. I think most people who rave about that area like that it is really clean, has a fresh country like feel to it with all the amenities of a large city.
Personally, I prefer the Clearlake area, a suburb of Houston. It's on the water and the community is just nicer than average. Here is one of many links to check out that area: http://www.clearlakeapartment.com/
or try:
http://www.apartment-locator-houston.com鈥?/a>
Houston has crime like any big city, our murder rates are down but we still have a fairly high rate. The Northside of Houston is probably the absolute worst, avoid it at all cost!!!!!!! Key places to avoid are: Greenspoint; Northside; Chimney Rock; Denver Habour; any of the Wards; and Channelview.
Good luck and you will enjoy our Southern hospitality!
First,Sugarland is a well respected area of Houston because it is mostly populated with affluent people. Katy is another GREAT place to live. I grew up there and had friends from Sugarland. The Woodlands is another good place as well as the Heights, historic downtown area near the Museums and the University of Houston. On Westheimer and Bell-Air area are also nice.
Anything on I-10 from katy to downtown is decent as well as fast.
Stay away from any area with the word ';ward'; attached to a number such as fifth ward. S. SW Houston is less desirable than West and NWest Houston. The ';west side'; is the ';best side';!
Maybe you should contact a real-estate agent or broker. My dad is one. He name is Lamprose ';Greek'; Vrinios. He also goes by Louis. He will point you in the right direction. www.heightsvillage.com He has been in Real-Estate since the 70's and has lived in Houston just as long and is very familiar with all the areas!
Good Luck!
How can you live an extraordinary life? (Any advice appreciated)?
What do you think an extraordinary life is?
And how can you you live an extraodinary life if you don't know your passions let alone if you are passionate about anything?
Last but not least, what do you think of this quote(?):
';You don't find yourself, you make yourself.';How can you live an extraordinary life? (Any advice appreciated)?
I agree with the quote. The entire purpose, methinks, behind an intellectual life is to realize that humans are at our best creating ourselves. This whole modern wave of self-discovery is a farce for the self creation embraced by previous, far more ingenious people, like Nietzsche and Foucault and Rorty.
For example:
';Maybe the target nowadays is not to discover what we are but refuse what we are.'; - Michel Foucault
As for an extraordinary life, this is a very difficult thing to answer. It depends on your definition of extraordinary. Since I do not know this, I will go by my definition.
I would call an extraordinary life one which distinguishes itself, although not immeasurably, for it is still a human life-- a life which is constantly amid discovery, that is, an artistic life, lived by someone who appreciates the world, sees its complexities, has dispensed with fear, which is most often useless for the human animal. Fear came from evolution, but except when we really need it, like to run from a man with an axe, it is a hindrance for us, and it must be eliminated from one's vocabulary.
In this way-- run, read, watch, experience, do not be afraid to do what you want to do, but the most important thing of all:
Always, constantly observe yourself and your motivations-- that is, know yourself very closely, so that you can evaluate what you want to experience, why you want to, and what else you can become before you are dead.
On a very basic and practical level, the best way to begin approaching a great life, I think, is to understand philosophy. Be taught philosophy, if necessary, but one way or another obtain a real understanding of what past philosophers--the important proofs and basic arguments are the most essential part-- have discerned about existence. It will change your entire life thereafter, I guarantee you, and it will veer you in a direction you did not know possible.How can you live an extraordinary life? (Any advice appreciated)?
i guess and extraordinary life would be one where you face so much adversary but still survive, or when you do things that affect the world (not necessarily help)
I guess you can still live an extraordinary life without knowing you passions by surviving through some kind of struggle, or struggles.
the quote is very true, or maybe its just true, i'm not sure how something can be very true, it just seemed right to say.
We are, in fact, products of our experiences and our environments, everything you do and know and think and learn makes you who you are. So say someone takes a sabbatical to find themselves, really they're making more of themselves by doing more, they are norealizingng who they are because if they hadn't done the stuff they do on their sabbatical then they wouldn't be the same person.
Who said that quote?
...one, move out from your parents house, tell them not to help you in anyway or means...
...find a job to support yourself, cause if you can't you'll end up sleeping where its dry and warm - with the other homeless people...
...in regards to your quote - you make yourself - becomes an extraordinary fact of life...
...advice: sleep lightly, be quick and fast with your hands and feet, good luck...
Nice quote, who's is it?
I have always lived by my principals and remained open to new information and views. It has not been as profitable as liars and cheaters, but I am at peace with my soul.
Depending on what extraordinary means for you...I will say that extraordinary has a lot to see with your own ideas. what you think is good for you, it may not be for me.
By your definition only !
And how can you you live an extraodinary life if you don't know your passions let alone if you are passionate about anything?
Last but not least, what do you think of this quote(?):
';You don't find yourself, you make yourself.';How can you live an extraordinary life? (Any advice appreciated)?
I agree with the quote. The entire purpose, methinks, behind an intellectual life is to realize that humans are at our best creating ourselves. This whole modern wave of self-discovery is a farce for the self creation embraced by previous, far more ingenious people, like Nietzsche and Foucault and Rorty.
For example:
';Maybe the target nowadays is not to discover what we are but refuse what we are.'; - Michel Foucault
As for an extraordinary life, this is a very difficult thing to answer. It depends on your definition of extraordinary. Since I do not know this, I will go by my definition.
I would call an extraordinary life one which distinguishes itself, although not immeasurably, for it is still a human life-- a life which is constantly amid discovery, that is, an artistic life, lived by someone who appreciates the world, sees its complexities, has dispensed with fear, which is most often useless for the human animal. Fear came from evolution, but except when we really need it, like to run from a man with an axe, it is a hindrance for us, and it must be eliminated from one's vocabulary.
In this way-- run, read, watch, experience, do not be afraid to do what you want to do, but the most important thing of all:
Always, constantly observe yourself and your motivations-- that is, know yourself very closely, so that you can evaluate what you want to experience, why you want to, and what else you can become before you are dead.
On a very basic and practical level, the best way to begin approaching a great life, I think, is to understand philosophy. Be taught philosophy, if necessary, but one way or another obtain a real understanding of what past philosophers--the important proofs and basic arguments are the most essential part-- have discerned about existence. It will change your entire life thereafter, I guarantee you, and it will veer you in a direction you did not know possible.How can you live an extraordinary life? (Any advice appreciated)?
i guess and extraordinary life would be one where you face so much adversary but still survive, or when you do things that affect the world (not necessarily help)
I guess you can still live an extraordinary life without knowing you passions by surviving through some kind of struggle, or struggles.
the quote is very true, or maybe its just true, i'm not sure how something can be very true, it just seemed right to say.
We are, in fact, products of our experiences and our environments, everything you do and know and think and learn makes you who you are. So say someone takes a sabbatical to find themselves, really they're making more of themselves by doing more, they are norealizingng who they are because if they hadn't done the stuff they do on their sabbatical then they wouldn't be the same person.
Who said that quote?
...one, move out from your parents house, tell them not to help you in anyway or means...
...find a job to support yourself, cause if you can't you'll end up sleeping where its dry and warm - with the other homeless people...
...in regards to your quote - you make yourself - becomes an extraordinary fact of life...
...advice: sleep lightly, be quick and fast with your hands and feet, good luck...
Nice quote, who's is it?
I have always lived by my principals and remained open to new information and views. It has not been as profitable as liars and cheaters, but I am at peace with my soul.
Depending on what extraordinary means for you...I will say that extraordinary has a lot to see with your own ideas. what you think is good for you, it may not be for me.
By your definition only !
What's the best most intruiging insightful advice anyone has ever told you in your life?
people have got so much more wisdom and experience and was just wondering what advice, spiritual or not that someones told you that you will never forget and just believe with all your heart is true? and who told you? thanks so much.What's the best most intruiging insightful advice anyone has ever told you in your life?
For me, it was the book ';The Selfish Gene'; by Richard Dawkins. It changed my outlook on life.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Selfish鈥?/a>What's the best most intruiging insightful advice anyone has ever told you in your life?
Through resourcefulness and hard work, my parents rose from near poverty to being fairly well off. At a very early age, I was taught by my father to know the value of a dollar. I was given an allowance of several dollars a week, and if I ran short, it was my own fault. I worked my way through college, and had to make my money last. Even today, I am a good money manager even though economic times are at an all-time low. There's a passage in the Bible that states: ';Raise a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it.'; No truer words have ever been spoken.
My best friends Grandmother always told us to ';Kill 'em with kindness!'; I really believe that is the way to treat others. This coincides with many spiritual beliefs about giving unto others. I think goodness prevails in most circumstances and have had pretty good luck with it.
Some of the most difficult lessons (experiences) in life are the ones we learn the most from. I don't remember who told me, however it has stayed with me for a long time.
';You can only control yourself'; - kind of goes without saying and although I knew this already it helps to be reminded of this whenever someone else does something that makes no sense to you at all.
Act in a way you want to be treated. If evreyone did that the world would be a better place. My mom said that to me.
There will always be someone who has it better off compared to you and someone that has it worse.
Get up you son of a *****, cause Mickey loves ya!
For me, it was the book ';The Selfish Gene'; by Richard Dawkins. It changed my outlook on life.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Selfish鈥?/a>What's the best most intruiging insightful advice anyone has ever told you in your life?
Through resourcefulness and hard work, my parents rose from near poverty to being fairly well off. At a very early age, I was taught by my father to know the value of a dollar. I was given an allowance of several dollars a week, and if I ran short, it was my own fault. I worked my way through college, and had to make my money last. Even today, I am a good money manager even though economic times are at an all-time low. There's a passage in the Bible that states: ';Raise a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it.'; No truer words have ever been spoken.
My best friends Grandmother always told us to ';Kill 'em with kindness!'; I really believe that is the way to treat others. This coincides with many spiritual beliefs about giving unto others. I think goodness prevails in most circumstances and have had pretty good luck with it.
Some of the most difficult lessons (experiences) in life are the ones we learn the most from. I don't remember who told me, however it has stayed with me for a long time.
';You can only control yourself'; - kind of goes without saying and although I knew this already it helps to be reminded of this whenever someone else does something that makes no sense to you at all.
Act in a way you want to be treated. If evreyone did that the world would be a better place. My mom said that to me.
There will always be someone who has it better off compared to you and someone that has it worse.
Get up you son of a *****, cause Mickey loves ya!
I'm 24 and my BFof 2 years joined the CG. I want to marry him, but he doesn't want to ';ruin'; my life. Advice?
I'm graduating this May with a BS in criminal justice. I have plenty of opportunities out there, so I'm not worried. He just isn't sure I'm cut out for it. I was looking for help on what I should do to make sure I can do it and not hold anything against him. I don't care where we go as long as I can be near him.I'm 24 and my BFof 2 years joined the CG. I want to marry him, but he doesn't want to ';ruin'; my life. Advice?
I was an Army wife for 20 years and also in the Army Reserve myself. A successful military wife is one who is fairly independent and makes good decisions on her own. She sees her home as the one she shares with her husband, not the one where her parents live. With your education and maturity, you would do very well. You have to be prepared for separations if your husband is away at school or deployed overseas, but if you work and keep busy, it's not too bad. There are also family support groups in each military unit, so you have a built in support network when your husband is gone.
When a servicemember is deployed, he/she very much needs his/her spouse to take care of things at home so he/she doesn't have that worry and can focus on the military job. A happy marriage and a supportive spouse allows the servicemember to excel at his military job.
When my husband was on active duty and we were separated, we corresponded by phone and letter. However, when my son was in the Navy, it was wonderful to be able to email back and forth. Even our soldiers in Iraq and Afghanistan have access to email and the internet so communication is relatively ';live';. You don't miss someone as much when you can email and perhaps exchange video messages.I'm 24 and my BFof 2 years joined the CG. I want to marry him, but he doesn't want to ';ruin'; my life. Advice?
Listen to him -- life as a military wife is really, really hard. He may be using this as an excuse, as other people have suggested, however, he may also want to give you both the best shot at afuture together, and he realizes it won't happen while he is enlisted. Let time work things out for you. It will.
I agree with all of the above, but when I married my husband I had already completed college, and he felt the same as your boyfriend. He felt inferrior to me, so my solution to the problem was to encourage him to earn a degree, which he did. Once he earned his BS we worked on our Masters degree together. Now we are both working on our doctorial degrees. You have to try to put yourself in his situation. If you are bettering yourself, you should encourage him to better himself. You truly have to be self sufficent. There are so many things that you have to do on your own, take care of the household, attend functions that the both of you would normally attend together, make sure the kids are taken care of, thats like being a single parent, etc, etc. So maybe you should talk to him a little more to find out exactly what made him make that comment.
I would not keep trying to marry a man that is trying to convince me it's not a good idea. What is that telling you? You shouldn't have to ';talk'; a man or woman into marriage. good luck to you.
Sounds like he is just using this as an excuse to delay making any further commitments. It really doesn't sound like a problem you can fix. Sorry. I could be wrong especially since I don't know either of you. But since he is settled into CG life and you are about to receive you BS, I don't see how marrying you would ruin your life. With the health care, job stability, housing, and getting to be together and all.
my boyfriend went in the army and he used that as an excuse although i supported his decision. but when he was being sent to iraq he used that as an excuse and ended up breakin up with me and got with another girl =(
Military unions have a high fail rate. Maybe he understands that and doesn't want to get hurt down the line. It could also be that he thinks he might be getting deployed soon. From personal experience, a deployment is very tough on a couple. Keep him near, but be ready for anything.
Just live together and see how that works out
I was an Army wife for 20 years and also in the Army Reserve myself. A successful military wife is one who is fairly independent and makes good decisions on her own. She sees her home as the one she shares with her husband, not the one where her parents live. With your education and maturity, you would do very well. You have to be prepared for separations if your husband is away at school or deployed overseas, but if you work and keep busy, it's not too bad. There are also family support groups in each military unit, so you have a built in support network when your husband is gone.
When a servicemember is deployed, he/she very much needs his/her spouse to take care of things at home so he/she doesn't have that worry and can focus on the military job. A happy marriage and a supportive spouse allows the servicemember to excel at his military job.
When my husband was on active duty and we were separated, we corresponded by phone and letter. However, when my son was in the Navy, it was wonderful to be able to email back and forth. Even our soldiers in Iraq and Afghanistan have access to email and the internet so communication is relatively ';live';. You don't miss someone as much when you can email and perhaps exchange video messages.I'm 24 and my BFof 2 years joined the CG. I want to marry him, but he doesn't want to ';ruin'; my life. Advice?
Listen to him -- life as a military wife is really, really hard. He may be using this as an excuse, as other people have suggested, however, he may also want to give you both the best shot at afuture together, and he realizes it won't happen while he is enlisted. Let time work things out for you. It will.
I agree with all of the above, but when I married my husband I had already completed college, and he felt the same as your boyfriend. He felt inferrior to me, so my solution to the problem was to encourage him to earn a degree, which he did. Once he earned his BS we worked on our Masters degree together. Now we are both working on our doctorial degrees. You have to try to put yourself in his situation. If you are bettering yourself, you should encourage him to better himself. You truly have to be self sufficent. There are so many things that you have to do on your own, take care of the household, attend functions that the both of you would normally attend together, make sure the kids are taken care of, thats like being a single parent, etc, etc. So maybe you should talk to him a little more to find out exactly what made him make that comment.
I would not keep trying to marry a man that is trying to convince me it's not a good idea. What is that telling you? You shouldn't have to ';talk'; a man or woman into marriage. good luck to you.
Sounds like he is just using this as an excuse to delay making any further commitments. It really doesn't sound like a problem you can fix. Sorry. I could be wrong especially since I don't know either of you. But since he is settled into CG life and you are about to receive you BS, I don't see how marrying you would ruin your life. With the health care, job stability, housing, and getting to be together and all.
my boyfriend went in the army and he used that as an excuse although i supported his decision. but when he was being sent to iraq he used that as an excuse and ended up breakin up with me and got with another girl =(
Military unions have a high fail rate. Maybe he understands that and doesn't want to get hurt down the line. It could also be that he thinks he might be getting deployed soon. From personal experience, a deployment is very tough on a couple. Keep him near, but be ready for anything.
Just live together and see how that works out
I would like advice about a whole life insurance policy.?
I had the policy when I was employed full time at an area hospital. I am no longer employed there but still have the policy. I have not been paying the premiums and there is an outstand loan balance, over $1000.00. What should I do about this?I would like advice about a whole life insurance policy.?
The loan is against the cash value, you don't have to worry about having to pay it back. Call the insurance company they can walk you through your options. .I would like advice about a whole life insurance policy.?
If the policy has not been canceled and you want to keep it in force, start paying the premiums again. If you started the policy while you were young, the premiums are probably fairly low. If you need cash value life insurance in the future, the premium will be much higher.
I would see an agent or advisor and have them assess whether you need the policy or not. Most will offer a free consultation.
Ron
Investment Advisor
Well, cancel the policy. Otherwise, the longer you keep it, it will keep eating up the rest of your cash surrender value. Cancel it now, maybe get a couple hundred dollars out of it.
Call the Dave Ramsey show, he can help you with your question.
http://www.daveramsey.com/radio/home/rimmel
The loan is against the cash value, you don't have to worry about having to pay it back. Call the insurance company they can walk you through your options. .I would like advice about a whole life insurance policy.?
If the policy has not been canceled and you want to keep it in force, start paying the premiums again. If you started the policy while you were young, the premiums are probably fairly low. If you need cash value life insurance in the future, the premium will be much higher.
I would see an agent or advisor and have them assess whether you need the policy or not. Most will offer a free consultation.
Ron
Investment Advisor
Well, cancel the policy. Otherwise, the longer you keep it, it will keep eating up the rest of your cash surrender value. Cancel it now, maybe get a couple hundred dollars out of it.
Call the Dave Ramsey show, he can help you with your question.
http://www.daveramsey.com/radio/home/
Does anyone have advice on life in gereral?
I want to know what people have learn over the year from life general. maybe you have experienced it, read or have been told, or your parents tought you.Does anyone have advice on life in gereral?
I learned, the hard way, that nothing in life worth doing or having is easy. A good life takes work, and we shouldn't be affraid to work hard for it.
Be yourself, and if you don't know who that is, find out before you meet someone and let them define it for you.
Have an open mind, and accept peoples differences. There isn't enough time in our life, to fuss over dumb things.Does anyone have advice on life in gereral?
live your life to the fullest,
never question why something bad happens
because in the end it will be even more gorgeous than it was before.
treasure everything , never take things for granted.
Be honest to yourself. We spend our young lives being taught to hide our emotions, not make waves and keep a stiff upper lip, by the time we are adults, some of us might have no idea what we are even feeling anymore. Don't lie to yourself.
Live your life to it's fullest everyday. Be good to yourself and others. Don't buy what you can't afford. Don't put things off until tomorrow. If you want ice cream for dinner, go for it. Be open minded and know that everyone has their own opinions and they are all right. There is no such thing as a stupid question. Always be at peace with yourself, and if you are not take a step back and figure out what went wrong.
Take care of your health -- no one else is going to.
DON'T get fat.
PAY YOUR BILLS ON TIME and be smart about money management.
Try not to take yourself too seriously.
Find a hobby -- this can be a life and marriage saver, unless you get obsessive about it...
HAVE FUN!
Proverbs 3:5,6
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not unto your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct your paths.
Live like you were dying. None of us know what tomorrow has for us or even if there will be a tomorrow. Live today to it's fullest.
Through your question, you're lacking of a lot, or just want others opinions. Build your intelligence by reading psychological books, watching documentaries. Use each experience that life brings you to understand what's to do with them. There's always something to learn, open your mind, listen to people. Think!, it's important!
Learn patience, love, communication, relationship, behavior, politeness, kindness, non-discrimination, self-reliance, gift of your time, all you can think of that's good; do it! That's how we learn life in general!
Take care!
Life is unfair, and it sucks, you need to accept that. Just get as much pleasure as you can before time runs out.
put god first everything else will fall in place, know a person at least two years before you make a commitment, watch a person don't listen just watch you can learn alot, laugh laugh and laugh somemore, take time to smell the roses, watch the movie pass it on and try it for yourself
Do what makes you happy, just dont hurt anyone along the way.
take each day as it comes, live each day as though it is your last and remember to smile, it is good for your well being. laughter really is the best medicine. be true to yourself , live loud and be proud. cheers sammi
You have two options in life: You live the life or let the life live you ! The choice is yours. (my mom)
I learned, the hard way, that nothing in life worth doing or having is easy. A good life takes work, and we shouldn't be affraid to work hard for it.
Be yourself, and if you don't know who that is, find out before you meet someone and let them define it for you.
Have an open mind, and accept peoples differences. There isn't enough time in our life, to fuss over dumb things.Does anyone have advice on life in gereral?
live your life to the fullest,
never question why something bad happens
because in the end it will be even more gorgeous than it was before.
treasure everything , never take things for granted.
Be honest to yourself. We spend our young lives being taught to hide our emotions, not make waves and keep a stiff upper lip, by the time we are adults, some of us might have no idea what we are even feeling anymore. Don't lie to yourself.
Live your life to it's fullest everyday. Be good to yourself and others. Don't buy what you can't afford. Don't put things off until tomorrow. If you want ice cream for dinner, go for it. Be open minded and know that everyone has their own opinions and they are all right. There is no such thing as a stupid question. Always be at peace with yourself, and if you are not take a step back and figure out what went wrong.
Take care of your health -- no one else is going to.
DON'T get fat.
PAY YOUR BILLS ON TIME and be smart about money management.
Try not to take yourself too seriously.
Find a hobby -- this can be a life and marriage saver, unless you get obsessive about it...
HAVE FUN!
Proverbs 3:5,6
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not unto your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct your paths.
Live like you were dying. None of us know what tomorrow has for us or even if there will be a tomorrow. Live today to it's fullest.
Through your question, you're lacking of a lot, or just want others opinions. Build your intelligence by reading psychological books, watching documentaries. Use each experience that life brings you to understand what's to do with them. There's always something to learn, open your mind, listen to people. Think!, it's important!
Learn patience, love, communication, relationship, behavior, politeness, kindness, non-discrimination, self-reliance, gift of your time, all you can think of that's good; do it! That's how we learn life in general!
Take care!
Life is unfair, and it sucks, you need to accept that. Just get as much pleasure as you can before time runs out.
put god first everything else will fall in place, know a person at least two years before you make a commitment, watch a person don't listen just watch you can learn alot, laugh laugh and laugh somemore, take time to smell the roses, watch the movie pass it on and try it for yourself
Do what makes you happy, just dont hurt anyone along the way.
take each day as it comes, live each day as though it is your last and remember to smile, it is good for your well being. laughter really is the best medicine. be true to yourself , live loud and be proud. cheers sammi
You have two options in life: You live the life or let the life live you ! The choice is yours. (my mom)
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