Tuesday, December 22, 2009

My question is very in depth. I guess I am looking for advice on my life?

I have had a problem with alcohol and have been sober now for three months. I have attended AA meetings but do not speak to many people. My problem is the depression and anxiety I have. I have been on and off medication for years and recently went off of the last prescription. I lost my job and insurance and there are not any affordable resources in my area. My problem is deciding what to do. I am so overwhelmed with life right now. Luckily, I have a place to live but that's about it. I am so afraid to even try and get another job and I can not stop my mind from worrying about every little thing. I want to have kids someday and am scared that I can't even take care of myself. Then I wonder if life will always be like this. I don't want to die anymore but that's mainly because I am scared of that too now. I keep thinking I need medication (but I was worse on the last one and don't have the money to try different ones) then I start looking for natural remedies. I almost ordered Amoryn?My question is very in depth. I guess I am looking for advice on my life?
Even if you don't have insurance there are resouces out there for you to get mental health and medication. You do sound like you may need medication for your depression and anxiety, but only a mental health professional can tell you that for sure. I do not know what Amoryn is, but please try to at least see a counselor. Your sobriety is very important and if you don't seek help for your depression you could lose that as depression can cause a person to go back into active alcoholism.My question is very in depth. I guess I am looking for advice on my life?
Get in touch with the National Institutes of Health in Bethesda, Maryland. They have many free programs and resources for folks dealing with the problems you are facing. Good luck.
well i know how difficult it is for the people like us to live in this world without any1 help but life is something which keeps on going i also suffered the same problem i started drink at the age of 14 n soon after 1yr i became an alcoholic


at the age of 17 i lost Evey1 trust there was no one to help me, my parents throw-ed me out of the house i was alone then i used to sell my blood %26amp; drink sleep in footpath i didn't even complete my studies so i can get a job


but then i got a small job, %26amp; now I'm working with the same job but still i don't have enuogh money to get my treatment


so i'm wating for my time to come
Tayla,





Don't take any more drugs. You should focus on finding a job you like and just take things one step at a time.





I worry a lot too. It does not do any good to worry.
Good for you for being sober for this long (3 months)! Are you going to AA meethings still? Have you a sponsor?


I know that feeling of being overwhelmed. Of all the things that are going on, do you think that taking a job, any job that gives some structure to your life, might get you back on your feet for awhile?


If you walked out into town today, could you work for a store for awhile or behind the counter of a fast food place? There are things you are capable of doing for work; they require you to dress every day and arrive on time and put out your best effort. Can you do that?


Moving around and talking to people helps get that logjam unstuck. The most important thing is at least being out among people. You want to have kids someday but I hope you value raising them with a spouse, not just getting them and then struggling with the same issues you have now. Two people in a marriage can share a lot and potentially solve a lot - it's more difficult for one person. That's why children need two parents!


If you think you need medication, at least if you are working, you'll be able to afford what is prescribed by a knowledgeable doctor who knows your history.


I would put working at the top of your list of goals. Stick to a job and give yourself time to get back on the right medication for you, meet people and decide the rest of your goals.


Good luck - life will not always be like this. It gets better. There are resources for you but you have to find them. It's much easier to tackle these issues if you have stable employment.
Well, first of all, congratulations on being sober and pat yourself on the back. You've taken the first step to healing yourself and you should be proud of that. Try to get back on some other medication. Sometimes it takes a few different kinds to find the one that will really work for you. You might have to change doctors and talk with them about what's been going on. Ask for any samples they might have and explain your financial situation to them. Most doctors are understanding of your situation. Is there a clinic in your area. Most of the time it's much cheaper to go to them.





Something else you could try, is exercising or take walks. Just don't sit around and let your mind wander. And don't sit in a dark room. Keep all your light on to make your surrounding bright.





My son is bi-polar and has dealt with the same feelings that you're experiencing. It took him about 6 years to get back on track and find the right medication and doctor to help him.





I always told him one thing...God never gives us more than we can handle.
ive heard this is quite common with recovering addicts. Since youve stopped using your drug of choice, life seems overwhelming. You cant run to alcohol, like you used to to cure your problems, since youve made it unavailable. Youll eventually learn to cope, WITHOUT booze solving your problems. Good Luck, and relax, its just a rough patch!
Well congratulations on being sober. That's a great step. Continue going to AA and start talking to people. You've made huge changes in your life and that will cause anxiety. You've made it this far, you can make it further. One step and one day at a time.





If and when you have children you will be able to handle it. You have faced and overcome something very difficult. This is a lesson that you will be able to teach your children. I was raised, in part, by an alcohlic. And I really believe that I am a stronger person for it. Unfortunately I was there for the worst of it and suffered because of it. However, if you are sober now, you can stay sober.





Good luck:)





Another thing that can help with depression is finding someone to talk to. Find someone you can talk to, a friend, a pet or something at your place of worship.
I have a lot of alcoholics in my family, I have lived in the same area all of my life, I have seen many of my friends die from alcohol in one way or another. My sister just got out of prison in April for DWIs.She raised her 4 children while drinking her life away...She was released from prison on the 16th and our mother passed away on the 18th. She never got to have a conversation with mom before she passed away. She did get to see her and she did recognizer her.....My sister struggles everyday with drinking.....But the one thing that has helped her most was finding God....She realized while in jail that God loves her regardless of her problems....If you seek your answers from someone who is wiser than yourself,,, you will realize that time is you enemy...Talk to one person and then another....Courage....to face your troubles....Honesty... to admit to your self what the problem is....Strenght....to try to change the situation or problem....Wisdom....to look for a solution anywhere except drinking or drugs....
you need to talk to someone, or see someone. Problems like this should not be dealt with alone, you need caring for and motivation to help you through. I wish I could help, really. But looking on here wont really help you. Don't take medication, although it helps you feel much better if its off your own back and will power than prescribed drugs. It going to be hard, without a doubt but you need help first. Is there no one you knwo who can help you?

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