I need some advice on my person life.?

Ok. Im 15 yrs old. Im what most ppl would say ';gothic';...well I used to cut myself and I stopped recently but I dont really know why. Most of the time I like to write a bunch of depressing songs and poems. I used to be really close to my family..(my parents are divorced) before I became ';gothic'; but now they all seem to just hate me. Ok now the questions..


1) How do I make my family realize that I want to change.


2) If Im so ';happy'; like everyone says...then why'd I take this path to begin with?


3) What are some tips on presenting in front of people?


and 4) How can I make friends if everyone is ';afraid'; of me because of my ';gothic'; style and because im so quite?I need some advice on my person life.?
First off, you're not gothic, you're a depressed teenager. There are tons of them, I used to be one too. For your first question, there's nothing better than straigth out talking to them. They love you, despite what you might think, and they'll listen to you. If you don't talk to them, things will just get worse between you and them. For your second question, the teen years are bad to begin with, and my guess is you've had your share of horrible s**t happen to you. The good thing is that once you're out of high school, in the real world, you'll find that things aren't so bad. You'll be able to make choices for yourself and find that people can be kind and accepting. Just hang in till then.





Presenting in front of people is never easy, even teachers hate it. Remember that everyone else has the same probelm with it, and that if you screw up, you won't get mocked, for fear that the mock-er will somebady be the mock-ee. Try and focus on just one friendly face, or even an object in the back of the room. Speak to them/it, and don't worry about everyone else.





Lastly, the friends thing. You should never try and be something you're not just to find friends, otherwise you'll have friends that are worse than enemies. But it is important to come out of your shell and talk to people. It's hard, I know, but just start off small. If there's someone in your class that seems like they would be a cool friend, just comment on something class related. ';Did you understand anything about today's science class'; or ';That test sure was hard.'; Or you could comment on something personal like ';I love your shoes'; or ';I saw that band sticker on you backpack, I love them too.'; It won't work all the time, but if you never try, you won't meet anyone new.





Best of luck in everything. I know it's hard, since I was very similar in high school, but I'm sure you can make it. I did, and I was a total mess.I need some advice on my person life.?
First of all I am so glad you stopped cutting yourself..good job! You can get your family to realize it by talking to them, and even if you have, it just may take some time for them to really believe it. Not sure why you did it, but have you gotten help? or do you talk to others that have done the same thing? If not, do. I was into the gothic style and before that I wore pink/blue/green hair, and combat boots. And only listened to the Sex Pistols and, well liked a lot of angry music..it was fun! But I was myself, and the real people in my life did not care about that stuff...although my mom did not really care for the looks, but she left me alone, because she knew I was ok..I would keep writing the poems if I were you, even show them to your family, and see what they say, or post them, I think that is a great thing to be doing. You could meet other writers and people of like minds that way. I don't think your family hates you, perhaps they are feeling guilty about the divorce and don't understand what you are going through..and just not sure how to talk to you. hey the fact that you are asking for help here is a sign that you want better. I promise you will find friends, you just have to extend yourself, people will suprise you...trust me. Good luck.
1. You tell them


2. for attention... (which is a common thing)


3. be yourself


4. if they can't be your friends the way you are then you dont' need them
First off, I would like to tell you that you are not alone. My daughter was a Goth when she was a teen and did the same types of things you talk about. Alot of the feelings that you have right now are a normal part of growing up. But it is the WAY that you are showing the world how you feel that your family doesn't understand or approve of. What we learn as we grow up is that if we just SAY what we feel instead of ACT OUT, then people around you, friends, family etc. would understand your feelings and try to help you get through this period of your life. Instead, you feel as if people are saying ';Look at that weird kid.'; or ';What the hell is my child doing?';. Mabey your parents don't know how to talk to YOU anymore than YOU know how to talk to THEM. I remember feeling like that with my child. The worst thing you can do is alienate your self. Don't be so quiet when it comes to how you feel. Its kind of like having an elephant in the room. Every one knows there is an elephant in the room but they hope that if they ignore it long enough it will go away! Well, dont just try to dress up to get attention. And DON';T CUT YOUSELF!! Tell your parents how you feel! It can't be worse than the way you feel right now...And as a parent, I'll bet my elephant that they are just praying that you will talk to them! My daughter is 25 now. She is still a little bit goth (some things stay the same) but she realizes that the cutting, makeup and trench coats and poems of doom were a way to get the worlds attention and say '; Hey!! I am here! I matter too!' Pay attention to me..I'm scared and need some one to talk to!';. Talk to your parents or a school counselor. But please don't hide and think no one cares. If you want help you have to ask for it. Good luck and best wishes.;)