i am a 15 year old boy an i am having a little bit of trouble staying on the right path in life. im so caught up in girls an partying an sneaking out, but i hate being all caught up and i get sick to my stomach all the time an feel guilty for it all. i want to know if anyone has gone threw this before? an how can i get straitened out oh an i would really appreciate some bible verses that might help me out too, im a christian. thank youPlease answer if you are religious and have good advice on life?
Hold the phone, central!
';Religious'; people seldom have good advice on life. They're usually too busy following some religious rule and trying to be ';good enough for God'; to have anything relevant to say to anyone else.
On the other hand, ';spiritual'; people, of which I am one, usually have good life advice, so I'll take a stab at it for you.
It easy for someone to stand there and say, ';Well, just DON'T do that.'; But I know that it is not that easy to hear that.
Really, though, there is nothing that will keep anybody on the right path until they take what is in the Bible and move it into their hearts. Jesus said (Matthew 15,11) that ';what goes into a man's mouth does not make him 'unclean,' but what comes out of his mouth, that is what makes him 'unclean.'';
You can substitute the word ';clean'; for unclean, and it is the same thing. Because in your situation (like it was in mine, too), you can look and look and look in the Bible all you want, but all you are doing is putting something into yourself, and that something cannot make you either ';clean'; or ';unclean.';
On the other hand: Make the Bible your own, and not what some church or preacher (or anyone here on Y/A, for that matter) says that it should be, and then it will come out of you and make you ';clean,'; because then it will be a part of your heart and life - not just your head.
So my advice would be just continue to read the Bible and trust ONLY the Holy Spirit (again, not some church or preacher) to show you what it means FOR YOU. A verse or two will not cut it, because sooner or later, if you keep reading it, the Bible will become your own, and a part of your life.
And remember: Guilt is the devil's tool. If you feel guilty, know that it is SATAN working on you - not God. Biblically, being ';caught up in girls'; is ';sinful,'; but practically, that is the way it is. I know for myself that was the main reason that I even went to church as a teenager.
Just make a conscious effort to NOT do the things that result in the devil's ';guilt trip,'; and do not put yourself in a position where you may even be TEMPTED to sneak out and go to parties, or whatever.
When you feel tempted, pull out your Bible and read it. That's the BEST way to get ';straightened out.';
P.S. Oh, and concentrate on the NEW Testament. All the Old Testament is is history; most of it is dry reading, and except for a few of the real-life situations (such Abigail showing what a wife REALLY should be in 1 Samuel 25), you're not going to get any ';life advice'; from it.Please answer if you are religious and have good advice on life?
Speaking out of personal experience, during my teens I was partying and doing not so righteous things all the time. But even during my teenage years, I still felt like God was watching over me. I think I became ';religious'; when I turned 22 years. It wasn't until I went through all these blunders as a teenager that I came to realize that all these materialistic experiences were meaningless and had no true value. Only the worship of God alone, and striving to lead a righteous life holds a true value.
My advice, and i'm not advocating this, is I find it necessary to experience something bad in order to find the good. And each one of us will find the good at his/her own pace and own time.
Change who you hang out with. Learn to say no. Go to your guidance counselor for help. Since you are Christian, perhaps talk to a youth counselor or anybody you trust at your church or just someone you know that is religious. Changing these habits can take awhile and you might mess up on occasion. Remember you are human, If you fall you simply get up..shake it off...and get back on track.
You are just experiencing the things a normal kid your age experiences. Don't beat yourself up over it. Always remember that God loves you just the way you are and if you ask him, God will change you. Try to set your sights higher than the party scene. You are so much better than that. Try to get involved in other things like your youth group will have a lot of ideas that can be just as exciting. Keep your eyes on God.
its hard, speacilly being 15 and being surrounded by people who wont encourage you, so leave those so called ';friends'; and surround yourself with people that will encourage you...involve yourself more at church or your youth service and read more of the word...also pray and truly seek God...in Genesis 4:7 it says ..';sin is waiting at your door to grab you. It longs to have you. But you must rule over it.'; temptation is great and thats the devil trying to draw you away from God so be strong and trust on the Lord will all of your heart...for the bible says the victory is already yours =)
Well first if your doing thing,s you feel guilty about, you are guilty of sin and need to repent, start going to church and do thing,s with the young people ,if you stay in the path of God you will not sin.
all that I can tell you is if you play with sinners,you will sin.
cant really help you, not having expirienced the stuff you mentioned
just ignore the loser who posted to this first
oh and you could read ';every Young Man's Battle'; by Steve Arterburn and Fred Stoeker-it talks all about how to stay pure as a teenage boy when your growing up in a sex-saturated culture
its nice to see that you actually feel guilty about using girls
i think that these are some good websites to go to
http://www.godisloveloveisgod.com/
http://www.scripturemenu.com/BibleVerseL鈥?/a>
http://www.pocketpower.org/sharing/verse鈥?/a>
http://www.bible.org/page.php?page_id=39鈥?/a>
i hope these help you
omg ive gone through it all!! im 16 now lol, but yea anyways i was reallly bad next thing u know i snuck out one day and jesus saved me and that change my life forever, but when jesus did save me i still was acting bad but this time i start to feel bad and slowly turn away from things. everytime you fall(sin) get right back up because theres many people who fall and cant get back up. need anything im here for ya
You feel this way, Because you are a Christian and Your guide is telling you to STOP THIS NOW! Find a nice Christian Youth group, and join it.
GOD Bless YA,
Chicago Bob. (Imasinner)
Please pray for our Country and Our President (DAILY)
There is more Joy in JESUS in 24 hours, Than there is in the World in 365 Days. I have tried them both.(ME TO)
R.A. Torrey.
Call a local Baptist church and ask them where there is a good Christian 12-step addiction recover group. Instead of the partying, go to this group. They will help you get straightened out. Stick with it and don't quit the group til you are doing ok again.
Im a 16 year old girl. Im trying to stay on the right path too. So far its working. If you feel guilty then just stop. There are ways to have fun without doing bad things. And if your friends are true then they will understand.
You don't need 2 be religious 2 have a good advice, or 2 be a good person. U need 2 find a peace within yourself (maybe religion can help U with that) and decide what do U want and what is more important 4 U.
I recommend you speak with the youth pastor at your church. Try to get a bit more involved with the youth group at your church...choose friends wisely...make sure you have similar interests and goals.
If you're feeling bad about doing something, why continue to do it?
That's basically common sense.
I am going to try to be honest and not corny. The changes in your physiology will be helped with or without sex. Guilt is something that stops us in wrong actions BEFORE we do them. Morality costs nothing. No matter when it happens if a young girl, unmarried becomes pregnant it causes pain for someone, and maybe even a life. You do not need to take a vow of celibacy. The right girl will be there at just the right time. Then marriage, and sex, spontaneously with God's guidance. Be sure not to rush her or rush yourself. Obey your elders, but not at the cost of your own spiritual life and happiness. As far as Bible verses, there is one that says ';If you look at a girl and are having sex with her in your mind, then you are already committing adultery. This does not mean you cannot look, it means be careful of staring. But you cannot love her just by looking. You must talk, and she must be honest (you will know). Love is understanding, not manipulation.
what is bothering you is more likely to do with lieing to your parents and breaking that bond of trust, than anything really religious-
although i'm sure some of your religion also covers this.
i STRONGLY suggest you talk to your parents about wanting to go to these parties- obviously you do, and denying yourself is not the answer since when you turn 18 you will have the right and even more pent up desire to do so anyway.
i can't tell you how many ';sheltered'; kids got to college and ended up pissing away thier chance since they indulged too mcuh in what was ';the other side of the fence'; to them and they did not have the backbone to have fun (believe i had fun) and balance it with RESPONSIBILITY!
i would strongly talk to your parents about this and discuss it with them and let them know and earn thier respect AND TRUST.
one of the big things in my life growing up (and no i was not religious- i was and am an atheist now), was that even when in potentially problematic situations, i was trusted to act responsibly so i wouldnt' be bringing suzie rotten crotch home telling them she is pregnant or be in the hospital with my stomach pumped for alcohol poisoning or bieng treated for a drug overdose.
bottom line is to build that level of respect with your parents and lieing to them is no way to do it-
and its not just the lie- its the PERCEPTION, so even if they didn't out right catch you, if you have done things to arouse suspicion (you have you are only 15), then they will be more hesitant to trust you-
christianity or no, religion or no- and will then use religion, or thier role as your parents to outright control you, rather than teach you-
of course they could always just be bad overbearing parents and not trust you, but at least make the effort.
Find a friend - a group of friends - you can be honest with this about. A youth group, a pastor, a youth leader, some friends who aren't all about looking right and being popular but being ';real.';
You won't get exactly what you're looking for here, I'm afraid, because there's only so much total strangers can do for you.
I will say, there are a lot of simple answers you'll get you should take care to ignore. ';You have willpower, use it.'; ';Ignore your guilt.'; ';If you don't like it then just stop.'; That's not real life. Real life is complicated and messy and you do stuff you don't want to. You asked for a verse, here it is - Romans 7. A piece of it: ';I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do鈥攖his I keep on doing.'; A saint himself said that - a guy who'd traveled the world and been beat and hated for God's sake, and there he was, still screwing up. Don't listen to people who imply you're just missing some simple solution for lack of trying. We all know life isn't that easy.
So the short answer is, almost all American male teenagers have gone through what you're talking about, Christian or otherwise. Secondly, you are not going to change overnight and this will not be an easy change if you decide to stick with it. And thirdly, perhaps most importantly, you gotta find the people in your life who are going to love you even in the worst of your screw ups. So be willing to talk to them and listen to what they say. Another quote, from Jeremiah: ';I have plans to help you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.'; God's right there, right now, with all the resources and people in the world to help you out. Start talking to them and thing's'll start rolling.
The fact that you feel bad about your actions is good. It is very difficult to be a teen, especially since so much of the media today is available to enable partying and sex and the rest of it.
Are your parents alive? Talk to your father. You need to channel your energy in another direction. Like a hobby or something you like to do or would like to do , like auto mechanics. You can learn anything if you put your mind to it.
You say that you are a Christian. You need to make up your mind who you want to serve, God or Satan. 1 Cor. 6:9 John 8:44 1 Cor. 15:33
Your young so you can make changes that will make you feel better. Manifest self control by changing your habits of sneaking out and having relations you might not be ready for now. Suppose someone gets pregnant? Just think of the long term consequences of your actions. You are only young once. The foundation that you build now will help you be a better adult and have a life free of guilt. Best wishes.
I wish there was a lot of time to write a detailed answer, or even better, to get a lot more info from you first and then answer...
BUT,
if you want change you will need to change these areas...
External changes
your crowd... that's right, you can't hang with them and do good. They will be your downfall every time. Proverbs 12:26 ';the righteous should choose his friends carefully, for the way of the wicked leads them astray';. Guard your heart form the foolish thinking that ';they are good people'; ';you just don't know them'; ';but they are my friends';. Your friends are bad friends and you are a bad friend to them too. You need to start fresh.
Your schedule... when you stop doing something bad you need to replace it with something good instead... go to a BIBLE teaching church, get involved with the program there, hang with people who are truly living the Christian life... Read the Bible, Jer 29:13 ';You will seek me and find me when you seek me with your whole heart';
Internal Changes
Your heart... you know what you have been doing is wrong. Repentance isn't just acknowledging it but coming to God and saying ';I give it up, I give me up, help me, save me, change me'; and being WILLING to follow through. He will enable you with the strength to do it, but the CHOICE to do it is yours.
This is the biggest issue... if you are repentant you will be willing to change your friends and your schedule. If not, you wont.
I am a youth pastor in SoCal, let me know if I can help.
Stay regular attendance in church.bring this question anonymously in bible study per say your friend for instance.';I have a friend who ...'; get a group discussion going.stay off booze wild girls give you a lot of problems you will regret latter .find a good christian girlfriend at church that will help you stay strong.type a girl who likes to sip soda with you under a shade tree and wants you for who you are Christian.
Pr 20:1 Wine is a mocker, strong drink a brawler; And whosoever erreth thereby is not wise.
Oh yes- like just go do what you want is good advice!!
Sex is good but oh yes- what fun you would have with a girl you may not even LIKE, have a baby with you and you will Pay and pay and pay thru the nose for that ';fun';. It's NOT all that worth it! Honest.
STD's? Lovely- oh hey by the way, beloved fiance- I just gave you herpes! Lovely wedding gift, right??? Or get AIDS- game over. Warts... YUCK you ever SEE pictures of genital warts??? Oh fun.
Ya right.
Partying is only fun ';for a season'; and yes, young people SHOULD be carefree and have fun- time enough for heavy responsibilities later on in life.
But some fun is crossing a line which can derail your future. Then ALL your good fun will be quite over, believe me.
There is good clean fun that will last a lifetime. Things like finding what fascinates you- your passions- and pursuing it. Be it geology, computers, volcanoes, weather, cars, mountain climbing, etc. The list is SO long- there's no end to it.
But sex and partying without a thought but for the moment can only bring you future sorrows. You will regret it.
Are you ready to be burdened down with a kid and girl with a ring in your nose right now? Are you ready to support yourself? Then you owe your parents some respect too, and stop the nonsense. That just shows your immaturity.
6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
6:15 And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?
6:16 And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people.
6:17 Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you,
6:18 And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty.
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6:13 Meats for the belly, and the belly for meats: but God shall destroy both it and them. Now the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body.
6:14 And God hath both raised up the Lord, and will also raise up us by his own power.
6:15 Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid.
6:16 What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.
6:17 But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit.
6:18 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.
6:19 What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?
6:20 For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's.
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20:12 Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.
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4:1 From whence come wars and fightings among you? come they not hence, even of your lusts that war in your members?
4:2 Ye lust, and have not: ye kill, and desire to have, and cannot obtain: ye fight and war, yet ye have not, because ye ask not.
4:3 Ye ask, and receive not, because ye ask amiss, that ye may consume it upon your lusts.
4:4 Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God.
4:5 Do ye think that the scripture saith in vain, The spirit that dwelleth in us lusteth to envy?
4:6 But he giveth more grace. Wherefore he saith, God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble.
4:7 Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
4:8 Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double minded.
4:9 Be afflicted, and mourn, and weep: let your laughter be turned to mourning, and your joy to heaviness.
4:10 Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he shall lift you up.
Im a 15 year old girl. You should have this little thing called will power. If you want to stop, you can. However, I advise you keep at it. You are only a teen once so live the teen life (that is, boozing, partying, sex etc)
Forget guilt and enjoy life. There is nothing shameful in sex.
Plus, if you plan to be Christian all of your life, you can repent when you're on your 30s and live as you want until then.
